I am blessed. One of the reasons I am blessed is because of my dad. What a man that I have for an example. He has demonstrated sacrifice, leadership, patience, and encouragement. I know some men do not know their dads and cannot share in this sentiment. I know some may not have a strong relationship with their dads. I know some are trying to not be like their dads. I'm not going to try and pretend that I know what that is like. I wish it wasn't like that for sons. My dad is living out generations of godly leadership before him. I want to live it out as well as the leader of my family. It has truly made all the difference in my life. It began with my dad making the choice to invest in me as a boy to man.
I recently saw a stunning statistic of how Father's Day is one of the lowest attended Sunday's in the church. This is troubling in more ways than one.
First this is troubling for churches. If men are to be the spiritual leaders of our homes and then this is to transfer to our churches, then somewhere we are missing the mark. We have taught men that their Christian walk is more about events than about discipleship. We have allowed men to overwork themselves and think that as long as they are successful secularly and the rest of their families come to church that it is ok. It is sad because one of the most effective ministries of the church is not just to single mothers but to mothers that their husbands don't attend.
Now I recognize there is a difference between a husband that can't attend and doesn't attend. Our world has been post-Christian to where work schedules do not account for Sunday's off. Or they are working six days versus seven and using the seventh for relaxation. Once again I recognize there is a difference between the cants and the donts. I believe the difference though in the cants are those that are trying to come on Sunday mornings. They want to be here. They try to be here and use every opportunity they can to be here.
Next though this is troubling for our families. There are too many men that are saying to their kids, church is for you but not for me. So they drop them off or send them off. Then when they turn 18 or have their first taste of freedom they are going to live out generally what their example was before them. What's the example they see? Church is only good for salvation and that's it. There's a difference in fire insurance and assurance.
So what is it going to take to change this course?
1. Men who seek God's kingdom first. Matthew 6:33 says to seek first His kingdom. We need men that will say as for me and my house we will serve the Lord.
2. Men who make kingdom investments. How quick we are to put our time, talents, and treasures into the things of this world versus the things of God and they want to call these investments. Think about how you are investing your time, talents, and treasures; are they honoring God or ourselves? Which do you want your children to see?
3. Treasure the things of God not man. The Bible says that where your treasure is your heart will follow. What does God desire for us to treasure? God, family, church, and world. In that order. Notice though that this is in the context of relationships.
If our hearts are right with the Lord we are going to desire for our families to want to experience the greatest joy of being in that same type of fellowship. Then from there the church will experience the blessing of your relationship and then the world will as well. It all connects.
The title of this is how there is a lost generation of men. The reason is that our connections are wrong. If get the right connections we will see a redeemed generation of men not a lost one.
God bless and have a great Father's Day in church.